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Ray Morris
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1/19/2009
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No, because he doesn't conform to what society says a desirable mental and physical, I've had to change what I believed was success.
Ray
Edited by - Ray Morris on 1/19/2009
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chas999
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Posted - 1/19/2009 : 5:31:37 PM
Society believes in the bell curve; and good luck if your child falls out side the Norm of society.
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Ray Morris
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Posted - 1/23/2009 : 3:54:59 PM
Oh the 'bell curve', my son doesn't even fit on the paper the curve is writen on.
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Ray Morris
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Posted - 3/14/2009 : 1:56:25 PM
But I'm learning that my son provides me with some special moments. In these moments I find a love that he has for me and it gives me the strength to become the man/dad my family needs. It's also the man I want to become.
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Ray Morris
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Posted - 4/11/2009 : 11:05:20 AM
I was in the a store the other day with Zach, he's 20 yoa, weigths 145 lds and almost 6 ft. Fortanently I can still 'man handle' him, will he went into one of his compulsive behaviors. What they are is he becomes fixated on something and nothing matters untill that fixation is meet (autism). I would typically just buy what it is, they're typically small things (match box car, post cards or books). Well this items were, 'shirts', I physically had to pick him up and carry him out the store. As I'm doing this, I look at all these faces, just staring, with looks of confusion and dismay. After being outside (about 30 sec) he was fine and his typical self. But for me I was thinking glad he did this with me here and not when Kelly (mom) by her self with him. As I was reflecting, a guy came up to me, said he saw what happened and asked if there was anything he could do? I said thank you but no, and interduced him to Zach and gave him a quick overview. He seemed some what taken back, more like he had little if any experience around a life style that encluedes a child/individual with special needs. I was touched by his willingness to come to someones that appeared to need help, in his view point. As we parted he commented me for how well I handled and loved my son, I thanked him for his willingness to help. As Zach and I walked away I wondered how someone that doesn't know Zach would have handled the situation. Would the store employee just have given him the shirt or would they have gotten physically violate with him. All he wanted was a shirt, he doesn't comprehend money or stealling. His work is alot simpler.
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azmives
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Posted - 7/28/2009 : 12:44:31 PM
My daughter Amber is 4 with autism and when she acts out, people look towards us as parents who aren't controlling our daughter. Since I could care less what other people think, it's not a big deal. Only parents (grandparents, etc.) who also have similiar kids truly understand. I saw t-shirts that said "My kid has autism. What's your kid's excurse?" or "I'm not a brat, I'm autistic!"
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Ray Morris
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Posted - 2/21/2010 : 5:47:56 PM
Well I've been really, slow, as the dates show. I know your mind frame. People just don't know what to do so they stare. My dad became a quad whein I was 9 yoa, so it was normal in public for me to push him around in his wheelchair. I didn't think anything of it, but I did notice the stares, they said "this is wrong, that kid shouldn't be pushing him around & that man isn't a man". I learned that people state because they're unconfortable or unfamilair with the situation. There have been several incidents where I've leaned over and said 'he has autism and brain disorder, that's why he behaves different. They just go 'oh' and that's it, no more staring. So don't be afraid to invite people into your world, challenge them.
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